This might be the only time I steer you away from the page, but if you haven’t seen Three Identical Strangers, it’s best to go in cold. May I suggest you read instead about Damien Chazelle’s Oscar-front-runner First Man or Lynne Ramsay’s disturbing 2011 movie, We Need To Talk About Kevin?
If you have seen the movie, however, I’m sure you’re half-mad with wanting to talk about it. It’s a documentary about two guys who discover, quite by accident, that they are twins, separated at birth. They were both adopted and had no idea they had a look-alike brother until mutual friends confused them when they both wound up at the same college, which is amazing enough. Their story goes national: it’s the feel-good story of the year, two 19 year old boys jubilantly reunited. And of the millions who catch sight of their front-page story is a third identical stranger. They are not twins, but triplets.
That feels like more than enough to have an engaging story, but in fact their story is only getting started, and it isn’t all as happy as their initial heady days together suggest.
This documentary is so well put-together that the intrigue stays with the film way beyond its first reveal. But this is not a piece of fiction. They’re real people who not only have their lives disrupted but find out they’ve been living with a painful absence. And then they find out worse things still. It drove me so crazy I was literally yelling at my TV (Three Identical Strangers has recently become available for rent).
I wrote recently about the above-mentioned We Need To Talk About Kevin, in which Lynne Ramsay gives us an awful lot to think about nature and nurture. Three Identical Strangers does it too in a way that’s utterly heart breaking. There are so many questions raised and injustices singled out and ethics breached that it’s aching, hard to catch your breath. But it’s must-watch material.
How bonkers is that!? Would like to see this.
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Yes it’s shocking when documentaries can be way crazier than anything they come up with in movies!
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Your review is the best I have read. And what this movie shows is a critical part of adoption in general.
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It’s mind-boggling and cruel.
When it first starts to reveal itself, only the adoptive parents really understand the severity.
Years later the boys begin to realize it themselves. It’s amazing that they weren’t more litigious, but by that point they just wanted to live their lives. It’s hard to even quantify what was taken from them.
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Not just what was taken from them but why … that left me gobsmacked, then enraged.
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Yes. I think someone should pay – but there is no restitution.
What hurts the most is there are more out there.
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I know their pain as an adoptee.
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I saw it today and now I need to process. I am beyond devastated. Lois Wise had what she called “Our Indian Program” which leaves me sick to my stomach. I am going to write about this as an adoptee. I appreciate you Jay. Your heart is so good.
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Jeez… thatās quite an unusual set of circumstances, eh? Definitely got me intrigued and Iāve added it to the list to check out when I can.
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Yikes. Sounds like things got messed up.
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Sounds amazing. Just watched the trailer and now I have to see this!
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I heard about this. I’ve hesitated in watching it but now my curiosity may take over.
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Yes, I’m glad I got to it. It’s still playing in some art house theatres but I was able to rent it.
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Yeah, this documentary flat-out blew my mind. So many levels of crazy to it. Glad you’ve seen it! One of my favorites of the year I think.
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Definitely an intriguing storyline behind it all, nothing stranger than real life, eh. Added to my to-watch list, thanks for another great review! x
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Amazing write-up!
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Nice review. Hints are great when you don’t want to give away the show. (-:
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